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The Most Important Question To A-Void – How To Put An End To Negative Thought Patterns


The why question. Isn’t it interesting? why is…why this…why that…why me…why now…why…when…why. The why question has no logical conclusion, and so the logical mind decides upon one from its closest thought process.

For a person who practices negative thinking, there can only be one result – a negative answer.
People of success do not ask why. They have obliterated it from their vocabulary. People who want to be successful ask why, but wanting does not lead to aquiring.

“Questions lead us directly to where we want to go, because we’re looking at the syntax of the question, not its content. If you fall into content, you’ll drown because content is infinite. We all know how little kids going “why?” can go on forever. The fact that a psychiatrist might do that means that therapy can last for years.” (Richard Brandler, Trance-formation, 2008).

So instead of asking why when something bad happens to you, instead place emphasis on questions that lead to positive, factual outcomes. This way you can minimize any distortions that can be experienced.

You want to move your questioning process from why into what, and how.

What was the cause of this? How can I change my situation?

What and how questions lead to actions and actions move you closer to a solution which is what makes them so powerful.

So, if you want youself asking why, try and reframe the question as what or how, and see where it leads you.

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Tim LO

Tim is a love coach and writer for Love Openly.

He has qualifications in NLP, hypnotherapy and stress management. HPD, DipHyp, DipNLP, CertSM