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What to Do When You Feel Like You Aren’t Lovable and that Nobody Wants to Love You

Do you ever wonder if there is something inherently wrong with you? You feel like no matter what you do, people will never accept the real person that lives inside of your skin?

Every day, it seems like someone else’s life becomes more successful than yours and all you can think about is how much better their life must be.

Hey! It’s important to love yourself, both inside and out.

How about trying out these tips and see if they help you get back on track:

1. Get comfortable with talking about what’s going on in your life

It’s not easy keeping a cool head when something goes wrong. It can be even harder to speak up about what you’re going through, but talking to someone is always helpful.

2. Talk to a friend or family member about how you feel

I know you are feeling upset, it can be hard to keep your spirits up. The most important thing you can do when you’re feeling down is to talk about it. It can be difficult, but talking about your feelings with a friend or family member is the best way to get them out of your head and allow yourself some time to process things.

3. Take care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising, and getting enough sleep

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to take care of your body. 

It’s important to take care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising and getting enough sleep. It can help you reduce stress and improve your overall health and well-being.

4. Find a hobby or activity that makes you feel good about yourself

Do something you love to do, like reading or playing a sport. Having a hobby can make you happier and healthier.

Join a club or find an activity that you genuinely enjoy doing. It can be anything from photography to playing the violin. The important thing is to do something for yourself and make sure it’s engaging enough. That way you can enjoy yourself and feel good about it!

Whatever you choose should make you feel good about yourself when you do it and bring out your best qualities.

5. Write down all the things you like about yourself and read them back to yourself every day.

There are so many things to like about yourself. You’re smart, you’re kind and you can do a lot of things!

I know you sometimes get down on yourself. It’s important to have a positive outlook. Make a list of five things you like about yourself and read it back to yourself every day. This really helps!

6. Find a support group that can help you level up in your life (like The Guild).

A great way to get started is by joining a support group. There are many options out there, but obviously I run one and think it’s the best. 🙂

If you need some help figuring out how to make your life better, check out The Guild. You’ll meet people who are in the same situation as you and they can offer useful advice, suggestions and guidance on what steps you should take next.

7. Practice self-love by doing solitary things that make you feel good about yourself, like taking a bath, meditation or reading a book 

I know it can be easy to neglect yourself, but you should never forget how important you are. Make time for things that make you feel good about yourself, that way you’ll always know what matters most.

Practice self-love. Don’t wait for the world to love you, show yourself some love instead!

8. Journal your thoughts and feelings to get them out of your head and onto paper so they don’t overwhelm you.

Keeping a journal to write down your thoughts and feelings will help you get clarity. It also allows you to reflect on the things that are important in your life, which is good for both mental and physical health.

Journaling is a great way to release pent up emotions and stress. It also helps you remember your experiences, so you can look back on them later.

Write down your thoughts and feelings on paper. By doing this, you’ll be able to get them out of your head so that you can focus on the task at hand.

If you have things on your mind that are bothering you, journaling can be a great option to clear up the clutter. Just get it written down.

It’s important to have a place that is just for your worries and thoughts. Journaling helps you get them out of your head, which makes it easier to sleep at night.

9. Ask someone for a hug

It’s no secret that hugs can be an amazing way to foster a stronger bond with someone. Oxytocin, otherwise known as the love and attachment hormone is released by our brains when we hug somebody close. It makes us feel more contented and less stressed about life events around us – so don’t hesitate!

Pretty self explanatory this one! Hugs stimulate oxytocin, also called “the love” or “attachment” hormone”. When you’re hugged closely from behind it releases these hormones which make people happier feeling less stress in their lives

10. Change your perspective on love by focusing on the positive aspects of relationships instead of what they lack

We know you’re not perfect and neither is anyone else, but that shouldn’t stop you from finding love.

You deserve to be happy just as much as the next person does so don’t worry about what your flaws are or how they might affect a potential partner because there’s no way of knowing if these things will happen at all.

11. Write down what you’re grateful for 

What are you most grateful for about yourself?

Gratitude is one of the most important things in our lives. Gratitude can give us freedom from resentment, an opportunity to appreciate what others do for us and a reason to be happy when we are thankful.

What this technique does: it changes your mood because you focus on all the good that’s happening around you instead of focusing on yourself or whatever negativity may have been consuming your thoughts before.

The tone should always be warm as well even if they’re not feeling grateful yet; every answer will elicit some form of gratitude eventually! This ensures that once someone starts being more focused with their feelings towards themselves then everything else outside at least becomes neutralized. The output voice quality here must also sound very caring so people feel like talking about these topics.

12. Practice self-compassion when things get tough, not self-criticism

You’re feeling down, or things aren’t going your way. You might be tempted to criticize yourself at this point, but self-compassion is better for you in the long run!

Practice compassion when life gets tough instead of criticizing yourself and it will make a difference in how much happiness you have over time

13. Accept that you are loveable

The most important thing you can do is to accept that you are loveable. It will make your life easier and more enjoyable, because then there is no pressure or need for anyone else’s approval but yourself.

Accept that you deserve love, and others will be warm to you.

You deserve the best! Accept yourself for who are, not what people think of when they see your face or hear your voice.

14. Get professional help if needed. A councillor or therapist.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by emotional pain, then it’s time to reach out for a counsellor or therapist.

Sometimes, it can seem like the weight of life is too much to bear on your own. If you feel this way and don’t know where else to turn, or how you’ll ever be able to ask for help without feeling ashamed in any other circumstance here’s a suggestion: Reach out for professional support from someone who understands what you’re going through; they might just make all the difference.

15. Make a list of your good qualities and traits

It is important to take time for yourself and only you. Make a list of your good qualities and traits, so that when the moments are tough or life throws curveballs in your direction, you can look back at this list and remember all the things about yourself that make you an amazing person.

In order to live well with others it’s essential we learn how to care for ourselves first – not just our body but also our mind, by reminding ourselves everyday what makes us strong from within (elements like patience!)

16. Start saying positive affirmations to yourself every morning 

Affirmations are a great way to start the day, because they can help you feel more confident and positive. I want my morning affirmations to be short but effective so that when I’m on-the-go in the mornings it’ll still have an impact.

Start saying affirmative statements every morning for some quick positivity.

17. Read self-help books on loving oneself.

Read self-help books on loving oneself. You deserve to be loved and you won’t find it outside of yourself, so make a book list for this time in your life where reading can help heal the wounds caused by years of rejection from society or just lack in love within.

18. Accept that it’s okay not to be perfect

A lot of people feel the pressure and anxiety about being perfect. They think they have failed themselves if any little mistake happens, so this has a negative psychological effect on them and their relationships with others because everything becomes more stressful for everyone involved. It’s important to learn how you can stop fighting against yourself in these situations when imperfection will happen from time-to-time no matter what type of person you are or your circumstances may be; instead just strive towards progress which means going forward even though there might also be setbacks along the way too!

19. Remind yourself that everyone is flawed, so your flaws don’t make you unlovable.

Remind yourself that everyone is flawed, so your flaws don’t make you unlovable. It’s not a big deal to have bad days or even be depressed – we all are at some point in our lives! You deserve love and kindness just as much anyone else does.

In Summary

I hope that you found one or more of these tips useful on learning to feel loveable again. Self love is all about self care. It’s about getting help socially and reconnecting with people that are important in your life. If you are able to work on yourself, then do so. If you feel that you need to seek professional council. That’s perfectly okay! You deserve the best for you.

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Tim LO

Tim is a love coach and writer for Love Openly.

He has qualifications in NLP, hypnotherapy and stress management. HPD, DipHyp, DipNLP, CertSM